Family = My Strength

In an article that we read for class it talks about the struggle immigrant families have and how it changes the family dynamic in a lot of ways after they come to America. A few ways it changes them is that they are unable to be as close with each other because of the lack of time spent with each other due to having to work, the addition of american cultures that is brought into the home simply by living in America which changes their own culture, and the stress that work brings to the family. One of those things I found very interesting and true was that their family became more separate because they each had to work and how the struggle came a lot from a disconnect of the whole family. Hispanics, it says in the article, are very family oriented and typically enjoy every second they have with each other. We learn in our church, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, that families are very important and are the center of our gospel. This observation of Hispanics prove to me how important family is to them. At one point of the article a little girl is quoted explaining her sadness of the limited family time she has now that she is in America. She explains how when they were in Mexico, they did not have very much money, but they were happy because they had each other. She compared it to being in America and how she hardly ever gets to see her family which makes her heart very sad. Family is a beautiful thing and is a strength in my life as well. My family is very important to me. They always love me even when I might be bothersome or rude. As I have been at college I have noticed sometimes the conditional love people can have and how easily their love might be taken away because of a rude comment or the lack of doing the dishes. It makes me all that more grateful for the unconditional love my brothers, sisters, and parents have for me. I love families and I am happy I can be with mine forever.

Whatever it Takes

Something my teacher told us during class was that the average couples who are well on their way to divorce have 10 areas of incompatibility. On the flip side, he also said that the average of good happy couples have 10 areas of incompatibility. So really, what is the difference? The difference can be explained in many different ways. For me, I can observe my parents and see many qualities in their relationship that has kept them together overtime. Some things I have noticed are their willingness to forgive and apologize to each other, their open communication about everything (even saying that they missed each other) and their respect towards each other. These things I have noticed because they have been actively trying to perfect these traits for as long as I can remember. Lets say you are learning a new concept in your math class and it is pretty difficult. What will help you understand that problem more than continually repeating that equation until, finally, to your pleasure, you can do it without much thought at all. This, to me, is like anyone who wants to make a relationship successful. Like my parents, they continually try hard to forgive each other or tell each other that they love each other. So what makes the difference? In my opinion, hard work and dedication.

First Post!

Hello! I am starting this blog for the purpose of my family relations class. I also feel that this blog gives me an opportunity to express how important the family is to me. I am grateful for the "The Family: A Proclamation to the world" and the goal it sets for my future family and me. Feel welcome to comment and have a great day!